Upon hearing thatThe Better Story Projectwill conduct a workshop about beauty, I immediately signed up. I’ve always wanted to attend their inspiring conversations like this and that plus beauty happens to be very close to our advocacy. We all know the stigma attached to us plus size women, but we’re convinced that we, too, are beautiful. Layers of flabs, double chins and all that.
Lessons from “Beauty Maters”
“The world’s version of beauty conveniently forgot the laws of gravity and mortality.” – Ailene Ponce
Again, it’s a reminder for us to ignore the socially-accepted – and, mind you, EVOLVING – standards of beauty. Skin wrinkles as we age, but what matters is what’s beneath it. Just close your eyes, take a deep breath and search your heart and soul. There’s kindness that flows inside you. Share it!
What lasts? YOUR smile.
I remember walking out of the Smile For The World gallery with a huge smile in my face. Why did I feel so rejuvenated even if I hardly know the people in those portraits? Smiles, I realize, never fail to give off good vibes to the ones in the receiving end. Looking back, I’ve deprived a multitude of people of my smile just because I felt unpretty when my upper lip widen to show off my inflamed gums and/or my sungki. But then again, most of the compliments I received so far were all about how fun-loving and cheerful I am and how my rambunctious laughter proved to be contagious. See, nobody took notice about those flaws! It was just me and that critical voice in my head all along! (But, still, I had deep scaling done for my gums and had braces for my teeth for health reasons.)
Don’t put another woman down, especially a Filipina. Be generous with your compliments.
We spend so much time nitpicking others and it NEVER helps. It prolongs this vicious cycle of being harsh to other people and, in my opinion, being fault-finders or gossip mongers can make us too conscious about ourselves that we don’t want to be talked about the same way, or, worse, we forget to examine our own mistakes.
Remember that the more we give, the more we get back. And to quote Ailene: “What blessings or curse are you giving out? And what will you take back?” So, it’s important to compliment a colleague who doesn’t seem to realize how charming she looks in skirts or remind a cousin that having backne doesn’t make her less beautiful. Spread the conviction that we ARE beautiful! It’ll make a huge difference.
Real beauty means showing up.
Yes, there are moments when we feel that we’re never enough and it’s more comforting to lock ourselves up all day. But real beauty is knowing that nothing like a huge pimple or knee bruise can stop us from sharing our love and light to the world. If you do this everyday, give yourself a big hug.
In my opinion, it helps to know that we can’t just stop at being pretty. We must aspire to be pretty creative and pretty smart, anything but merely pretty.
Don’t be scared of being beautiful. You ARE beautiful.
Beauty is not a gift entitled only to a selected few. Stop believing that some people happen to be idle and available nang maghasik nang kagandagan ang Diyos. Like what this video had elaborated, God is not fond of junk. He can’t possibly create “factory defects”. Just stop accepting what the world dictates as beautiful. Look at yourself in the mirror and utter a powerful affirmation about your beauty and uniqueness. It will go a long way.
When you finally accept that you are indeed beautiful, you would love to share this liberating feeling to everyone, yes? So Ailene challenged us: Are we going to pass on our distorted and superficial definition of beauty to the next generations or are we going to start a comforting revolution right now instead?